Adulthood and the Death of Youth

Coming of age is a staple theme in the modern day of storytelling. Everyone has a story from back in the day, and it’s commonly portrayed in literature and TV. Something that universally unites us as humans is witnessing our life change overnight and facing the price of freedom known as responsibility.

Once upon a time, we all had a dream. When someone asked us as a child what we wanted to be, we said and array of things: doctor, vet, pilot, fireman, actor, musician, etc. For many, getting older meant letting go of said dreams and facing reality. When do we become adults? Is it when we’re financially stable, married, have children, or all of the above?

[According to new research by CBS’ TV ratings guru David Poltrack and Nielsen Catalina Solutions], 30 happens to be the age at which millennials tend to self-identify as adults.

Millennials Don’t Consider Themselves Adults Until 30, Researcher Says byTony Maglio 

Way back when, boys and girls were considered adults at the age of twelve and thirteen. If you’ve read or seen The Lord of the Rings, the fantasy race of Hobbits reach adulthood at the age of 33. Who knew J.R.R. Tolkien could foresee where human development was headed?

But, it is the millenial parents who have convinced us that we aren’t adults. From financial support to constant approval, the Baby Boomers (born between 1946 and 1964) are constantly involved in their children’s adult lives.

We all have or have known a parent who had a hand in their child’s homework, always cleaned up after them, took care of situations for them, or constantly reminded them of things they were capable of handling on their own. In these parents’ eyes, they were and still are doing what’s best for their children. What suffers is the child’s on confidence in handling themselves as an adult.

As a result of not being babied or supervised themselves as children, as well as cultural shifts in parenting norms through the progression of technology, these generations overcompensated in their involvement with their Millennial children.

How Baby Boomer Parents Molded the Millennial Generation by Ilana Bodker

At 25, there are other young adults I know who don’t know how to do taxes, how to change a tire, cut the grass, or even use the right settings on the laundry machine. Instead of figuring this stuff out on our own, the first thing we do is call our parents and ask for help. These are the same parents who lecture us about how we need to “grow up.”

For me, adulthood is being financially and emotionally independent. Even with your parents, taking someone else’s money comes with a price. Letting go of the emotional reliance we have with our parents from birth is the only way to develop a relationship and family of your own.

Being young is liberating and fun in it’s own way, but it isn’t truly free. Getting stuck between adulthood and adolescence is stressful, and takes a toll on our mental health. I used to be scared of being an adult and controlling my own outcome, because I’d probably mess it up. It’s nothing to be scared of, adults fail all the time going after their dream. Adults make mistakes they have to fix. Adults figure it out on their own. We all have the same ability to take control of our own life.


  1. When you go deep enough down the rabbit hole you realize a few things about the human mind that reveal the structure of the human ego…
    and when i explored down that hole i realized……a word cannot speak for itself since it has no voice and it is always the voice of a human that gives a voice to words.

    How about a demonstration????

    Read this out loud and after reading it just focus on complete silence
    Read this in your head (silently) but this time try to focus on complete silence as you read it in your head

    You cannot read without talking to yourself

    and that voice that you hear is YOU.
    The unapologetic you that knows everything about you, all things you have done that you swear you will never share to every shattered dream and failure that has molded you into who you are. That voice it YOU, the real YOU. Your mental voice, the voice of your mind. A voice which can mimic anything is has ever heard as well as create wonderful sounds that are yet to be heard.

    And as i explored the rabbit hole and realized this i stumbled onto an interesting question which was…..

    “How big is your mind?”

    How big is a mind that does not just grasp infinity but created it? How big is a mind that created the letters to form the word and give the definition of infinity?
    How big is a mind that can create and entertain an idea such as infinite parallel planes and universes with infinite timelines all occurring simultaneously, each playing out a reality that is so similar yet vastly different from our own????

    Though the brain maybe finite the size of the mind is infinite….

    After i realized this while in the rabbit hole it hit me!!!! If something is infinite it will last forever…..and though my body may age and so my physical voice with it…my infinite mind will not and stick to an age forever.

    What i mean to say is that at a certain age your physical speaking voice will sound like the voice in your mind….but as time flows and our bodies inch closer to death our voices reflect this and begin to change. YET the voice of the mind will remain the same and it is young….early 20’s from all the different humans i have asked.


    If you are reading this you might not be old enough to hear the difference BUT ask someone that is much older….ask them how old does their inner voice sound, the voice of their mind. And watch their face when they realize that they are forever young trapped in an aging body on a planet, part of a solar system, in a galaxy, in an infinite universe.


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